I agree, and I think your response is incredibly intuitive. i was in talk therapy and EMDR therapy on and off for 10ish years, and found it to be helpful in some ways.

but, it’s less about the personal wounds and more about the fact that regardless of my personal feelings of autism, there is forever a projection of an image of my disorder on other people, regardless of my experience. and the way they can treat you sometimes, regardless of how you feel about your own situation, forever changes the way you interact with the world and see yourself.

i think it’s one thing to say that therapy is a path, but ultimately autism is a layer in conversations outside of our control, and it’s worth voicing our feelings about how it affects our self worth and changes the trajectory of our life.

we often hear “this might be harmful to people with autism”, but rarely is that spelled out for nt people.

my own anti-vaxx mother is also autistic in my own opinion and my dad is ADHD, so i don’t think it’s formally as black and white as NTs who raise an ND, but the perception of autism in a world that doesn’t really understand what it is.

so, although this has gained a bit of momentum in the autism space, it was more written for neurotypicals to be able to understand the paradigm that’s enforced on you legally and that you are always viewed in.